All the best Yamaha mad, I hope you get that spark back, it sounds at least as if you've had a bit of it playing along with your daughter. I think you have to play what's in your heart, whether it's something as regimented as a concert band or something off the wall. As far as I'm concerned all music is valid as long as it's honest and comes from the right place, even if it's not to my personal taste. So, by that token, nothing is wrong - whether it was meant in jest or not, the comment about your tenor, while it hurt, may have just been a roundabout way of saying that the sound you were making, rather than the actual notes, was maybe not totally suitable for the context rather than being a slur on your playing. Mind you, it could have been put a bit more kindly or positively (constructive criticism and all that) but in the words of someone a lot more educated than me Nil Illegitemi Carborundum (look it up :S )