Please explain what you mean by "grow out of it" for the benefit of the thousands of people around the world involved in contemporary composition and avant garde music, I'm sure they'd like to know what they're doing wrong.
They probably don't really care about us, potential listeners. Because they know and we don't. We are still listening to things with notes. Old! Boring!
Luckily the arts council knows how to feed the avant garde, if a form is properly filled and an art statement correctly written.
Asking to express with word the meaning of Charlie Parker 's music is like asking to dance the shape of Saint Paul Cathedral.
I think Mahler said "if i could express it with words, I wouldn't bother writing music".
If you don't get this concept, give up the challenge of understanding a minor 7th.
If anyone cares about my relationship with minor 7th: the first time I heard one on a major triad on a blues, I thought it was the coolest note ever. When I understood a 7th sliding from a dominant chord to the 3rd of the tonic, I thought it was hot.
Since you are picking on TV, I would love to mention the pleasure of perfect fifths on a viol ensemble: no wonder the interval had a religious
meaning.
Yes, I strongly believe that music is a language to communicate emotions. People like KH Stockhausen (Marcus is cheesy: he played with Oregon; boo boo, commercial!) or Cage changed the language. Not many people understand it? Their choice. Some people pretend to understand them? Possibly: it feels good to look intellectual.
Until 150 years ago, in Europe, people with some basic education were humming Verdi or Schubert. Now they don't even listen to Arvo Pärt (boo, boo, tonal!)
As a composer, I can decide to use a well known language or some solipsistic soliloquy. It is up to me and to my skills: I wish I could write a hit, I wish people could hum "
Looking Glass".
I write (or improvise) my stuff in the hope to communicate with someone that shares the same language, or is willing to learn it. Probably it is just exhibitionism or other psychological perversion, but is what makes me want to be a musician.
I have no intention to teach people how to be better human beings: it is often a hopeless challenge, if someone doesn't understand the language.