jrintaha
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I just don't get it. I guess these guys are just so far away from having kids that they had no interest whatsoever in mine, which is fine. But it got me thinking. Did they not know any nursery rhymes? Or where they just too cool to play them? Its not like they were in the middle of their set. I wasn't being that guy who interrupts their performance with an oddball request.
It might not be just that they thought themselves too cool to play for kids. A lot of people in their teens and twenties (especially men, but I suppose women too) just don't know how to act around children. If you don't have any siblings that are more than just a handful of years younger than yourself, all your friends are around your age and thus usually don't have any children, chances are you've never really met any children. Seen and heard a few of them in the bus or restaurant, but that's about it.
I remember being queasy around children before I had any of my own. It's not that I hated them or anything, I just had no idea what to say or what to do. Also, young kids don't follow many social norms, so you never know what question they'll present to you next. And since a lot of parents around here seem rather... uptight, you really have to be careful about how you answer.
I recall most of my friends were a bit uneasy around my first born at first, as I was the first guy in our circle to have children. I was 23 then. But most of them got used to kids pretty fast.
So a few years back I might've said sorry, I don't know any nursery rhymes; not out of meanness, but because I couldn't have thought of anything else to say.