Miscellaneous Loss of my Wife

[U CAN CALL ME AL]

Hi everyone. I’ve not been active lately. I had a few problems a stroke, now completely recovered, a squamous cell carcinoma removed off my temple but nothing could have prepared me for the loss of my wife. We were together for 56 years, married for 53. She was completely well until a routine blood test showed she was anaemic. Investigations showed she had cancer of the colon which had spread to both sides of her liver. Despite her having done all the poo kits sent out they were all returned as negative. She fought it for 10 months had an ileostomy but died in May this year. I am like a man without his right arm as we were joined at the hip.
I am trying to practice saxophone again but life is hard on my own. I am fortunate to have the company of our 2 cocker spaniels which I promised to care for to my wife before she died.
I will try to participate again once able.

 

[Pete Thomas]

AL I'm so sorry to hear this. Our deepest Cafe Condolences.

 

[Nick Wyver]

I’ve been married for 43 years. I can’t imagine what you’re going through. Condolences from me too.

 

[Jimmymack]

Al, I am so sorry, my deepest condolences. Thank you for feeling you could share this here, it must have been difficult. I look forward to you participating again.

 

[cappers]

My heart goes out to you Al. We've been married for 47 year this month and I would be totally devastated and lost without my other half. Sincerest condolences.

 

[trimmy]

Deepest condolences Al 😢
Can't even imagine what you've been through or how you're feeling,

 

[Canuck_alto]

So sorry to hear of your loss.

 

[Taz]

Al, my heart weeps for you! Just 38 for me, I can’t imagine what you’ve had to deal with my friend. My thoughts are with you and your family

 

[PigSquealer]

It takes time to heal from any loss or injury. I feel your pain and loss. Sending you a big hug !

 

[Ivan]

My condolences, Al

 

[GCinCT]

My most heartfelt condolences. I can't imagine how I would manage if I lost my wife.

 

[MarkSax]

Sincere condolences. Play the sax again, for her…

 

[Woodpad]

My condoleances. I lost my wife 25 years ago and still can't describe it. Playing music helped me.

 

[Ghr9204]

Sorry to hear of your recent loss, @U CAN CALL ME AL , my condolences.

 

[Dr G]

Thank you, @U CAN CALL ME AL , for trusting us with this.

“A burden shared is easier carried.”

It is a good reminder to us all that others are suffering and we may never know it.

Compassion to all.

 

[JayeNM]

Al, so sorry - I too am a widower.

I hope you have some support from the rest of your family as well....

 

[Colin the Bear]

Condolences. You may find that the concentration and focus needed to play can give you a short respite from your grief. It may also let you express it and not bottle it. Something small to hang on to through troubled times.

 

[Tenor Viol]

Very sorry to hear this. It will be very hard for you - if anything can help, it's music.

 

[Jeanette]

@U CAN CALL ME AL my sincere condolences, hope you find some respite from your pain when playing.

Do keep checking in here.

Jx

 

[atwl77]

My condolences, losing someone is always hard.